自我意識：提高領導情商的關鍵

????了解此清單，可以很容易看出有很多東西需要自我意識。由此可知，如果這些要素在你的清單上……它們同樣也在其他每個人的清單上，不是嗎？所以，這些認知對于了解自己和他人都是非常關鍵的。

????我們已經回答了“什么是自我意識”這個問題?，F在讓我們進入第二個問題。

????如何發展自我意識？

????答案既簡單又復雜。簡單的部分是：“針對上述自我意識的六大要素，讓自己逐一對照填補空白?！崩щy的部分則是，我們人類永遠都不是“固定和僵化”的，或在一個靜態的存在方式中不變。我們處在一個過程當中，它不停地流動、不停地變化、演變，不斷涌現。因此，發展自我意識是一次漫長的人生冒險、一趟長長的旅程，而不是周四下午的一個短暫項目。

????不過這里有一些容易讓你開啟思索旅程的不錯工具：

????? 進行MBTI心理類型測試，這是一種很有價值的自我認識心理測試工具：http://tiny.cc/e0rmmx

????? 進行DISC性格測試，了解自己的動力是什么：http://tiny.cc/rdrmmx

????? 研究九型人格，更深入了解自己的動機和誤區：http://tiny.cc/e8rmmx

????? 進行一次價值啟發測試，了解自己真正關心什么……不關心什么。想要獲得測試題，請通過電子郵件與我聯系（目前只有英文版）

????? 開始每天寫日記，記錄從上面所學到的知識，記下自己的思想、想法和觀點。每周和每月翻看日記。堅持下去，直到太陽從西邊出來。

????? 參加我的“信念改變冒險”講習班：發現自己信念，并真正改變不適合自己信念的好方法。

????提醒！放慢速度，深呼吸，放松。非常好！很多人（由于錯誤的信念）認為進入自我意識，意味著將會發現自己很多糟糕、難以啟齒或不愉快的事。如果這就是你，請馬上拋棄這種想法。自我意識是為了發現自己真正是誰，并且成為一個真正的你。它不是巫術迫害！我向你保證，作為長久以來研究人類思維的研究者，你會發現多數東西都將是值得珍惜的。沒錯，你可能會發現一些垃圾……那就拋棄它！但千萬不要用這些工具來貶低自己。

????最后：絕對不要利用這些工具將自己和他人進行“比較”，這是自我挫敗和毫無意義的。你就是你，所以只要和自己進行比較。自我意識不是競賽，也沒有存在的“完美方式”。記住中國有句諺語“人比人，氣死人！”。

????Just looking at this list it should be easy to see that there is a great deal about which to be self-aware. And it follows that if these elements are on your list…they are also on everyone else’s list, right? And so these awarenesses are key to understanding yourself as well as others.

????OK, we’ve answered the question “what is self-awareness really?” Let’s move to the second question.

????2. How Can You Develop Self-Awareness?

????The answer is both easy and difficult. The easy part of the answer is “get busy and start filling in the blanks, for yourself, regarding each of the above six elements of Self-Awareness.” The difficult part is that we humans are never ‘fixed and frozen’ or locked into a static way of being. We are a process, ever flowing, ever changing, evolving, alwaysemerging. As such, developing your self-awareness is a life long adventure, a journey, not a project for Thursday afternoon.

????However there are some excellent tools to get you started on your journey:

????? Take the Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment, a valuable psycho-metric tool for self-understanding: http://tiny.cc/e0rmmx

????? Take the DISC personality assessment to understand what motivates you:http://tiny.cc/rdrmmx

????? Study the Enneagram to learn your deeper motivations and pitfalls: http://tiny.cc/e8rmmx

????? Do a Values Elicitation Exercise to understand you are really care about… and what you don’t. Email me and I can send you one (only have English at this time)

????? Start a Daily Journal to capture what you learn from the above, writing down your thoughts, ideas and insights. Review it each week and each month. Keep doing this until the sun starts rising in the West.

????? Take my “Belief Change Adventure” workshop: a great way to discover your beliefs and actually change the ones that no longer serve you.

????A WORD OF CAUTION!Slow down, take a deep breath, relax. Great! Many people (because of faulty beliefs) assume that diving into Self-Awareness means they will find out a lot of bad, nasty or unhappy things about themselves. If that sounds like you, please discard this idea right now. Self-Awareness is about finding out who you really are and becoming more of who you really are. It is NOT a Witch Hunt! I promise you, as a long time resident of The Human Dimension, most of what you will discover is going to be treasure. Ok, you might find some junk…so just discard it! But never used these tools as a way to put yourself down.

????Finally:NEVER use these tools to ‘compare’ yourself with others because that is self-defeating and pointless. You are you, so compare yourself with you. Self-Awareness is not a contest and there is no “one perfect way’ of being. Remember the saying in Chinese “when you compare yourself with others it just makes you angry!”