????不過，工作機會總是有的。德朗曾做過一項調查，他訪問了從20所不同學校（都是不錯的學校但并非常春藤名校）畢業的35位應屆畢業生，他們都成功地找到了不錯的全職工作，有些人的確也借助了父母的人脈關系?！案改概c孩子的關系天然地都各不相同，”德朗說?！坝行┖⒆痈静粫母改改膬旱玫饺魏螏椭?，而有些孩子卻完全依賴父母?！?/p>

????他接著說，許多父母首先要做的就是，克服舍不得孩子離開家的矛盾心理。在我所做的全部訪問中，父母對孩子離家都有一種復雜的情緒。有些父母的確想讓孩子回家過暑假，甚至希望他們能待得更久，”他說道。假設你已經克服這種矛盾心理，以下四個步驟將會對你有所幫助：

????1. 如果可能的話，幫他們聯系信息性面試。德郎會比較認同你把兒子介紹給你（或丈夫）所認識的職場人士的想法?！靶畔⑿悦嬖嚲褪亲屗麄兣c某個特定領域中的經驗豐富人士交流，以確定不同的職業發展路徑，以及了解如何取得職業晉升。這對于求職者來說是個十分有用的工具，特別是應屆畢業生，”他說?！案改溉绻馨淹?、客戶等職業人士介紹給孩子，分享對他們有益的社會經驗，那么對孩子來說，父母就無異于一個金礦?！?/p>

????2. 鼓勵孩子逐漸明確想法。給孩子們提供信息化面試的好處很多，因為他們需要閱讀公司的網頁，了解某一行業的發展趨勢?！肮椭鱾兏嬖V我，初級申請者僅對未來所從事的工作或是所需要的技能只有很模糊的概念，”德郎說。比如，應屆畢業生常常忽視在大學比賽或活動中所鍛煉出來的團隊領導力與需要這些技能的雇主之間的聯系。你可以幫助他了解他所具備的哪些能力和經驗是招聘公司所需要的，而他說不定忽略了這一點。

????3. 幫助他們準備面試?！懊嬖嚂r如何應對或應答？每個應屆畢業生都需要得到這方面的指導和幫助，無論這種指導是來自你或是學校職業介紹中心還是其他經驗人士，”德郎說?！叭缃衩嬖嚨碾y度與以前相比早已不可同日而語，現在許多雇主們都依賴于電話面試或網絡視頻面試，這些都需要不同的應對技巧?！倍瑫r，他說：“還要確保他們從思想上做好準備：在找到工作之前需要經歷海量的面試?！?/p>

????4. 引導他們不要 “被興趣所蒙蔽”。德朗非常重視這一點，他的書中有一整個章節都是在探討這個問題?！罢麄€社會，有時是甚至是父母都會鼓勵孩子們‘做自己喜歡的事’或是‘找到自己的興趣所在’，但如果你的興趣早已跟不上時代怎么辦？”?

????Still, jobs do exist, of course: In researching his book, DeLong interviewed 35 recent college grads from 20 different schools (all "good" but none Ivy League), who have succeeded at finding interesting full-time work, sometimes with a boost from their mom and dads' connections. "Every parent-child relationship is different, naturally," DeLong says. "Some kids want nothing to do with any kind of help from their folks. Others are counting on it."

????The first thing many parents have to do, he adds, is come to terms with whatever ambivalence they may harbor about their offspring's leaving home for good. "In all the interviews I did, the parents had mixed feelings. Some of them really wanted the kid to come home for the summer, or even for much longer," he observes. Assuming you've conquered that, here are four steps you can take to help:

????1. If possible, set up informational interviews. DeLong likes your idea of introducing your son to some of the people you (and your husband) know professionally. "Informational interviews, where someone meets with a seasoned person in a given field to find out what the various career paths are and how to get from A to B, are a great tool for any job hunter, but especially for new grads," he says. "Parents can be a gold mine of introductions to colleagues, clients, or other people with real-world insights that kids can really use."

????2. Encourage your child to develop a focus. Those informational interviews should help with this, as should reading some company websites and studying up on current trends in a given industry. "Employers tell me that most entry-level applicants have only a vague idea, if that, of what they want to do or what skills they bring," DeLong says. New grads often overlook, for instance, the link between team leadership honed in college sports or other activities and employers who are looking for those skills. You can help by pointing out the abilities and experience your son has to offer that companies want -- and that he may be overlooking.

????3. Lend a hand with preparing for interviews. "New grads almost always need help with how to act and what to say in a job interview, either from you or from the campus career center or some other experienced source," DeLong says, adding that "interviews are more complicated now than they used to be, with many employers now depending on phone screens and Skype meetings, both of which call for different approaches."

????At the same time, he says, "make sure your child is ready mentally for the sheer number of interviews he or she will probably have to do before getting hired."

????4. Steer him or her clear of the "passion hoax." DeLong considers this so important that he devoted a whole chapter of his book to it. "The larger society, or sometimes even parents themselves, too often encourage kids to 'do what you love' or 'find your bliss,'" he says. "But what if your bliss is the current equivalent of the buggy-whip business?"???